We heard about it; we read about it; and some of us watched it on TV: the wedding of socialite Kim Kardashian to NBA player Kris Humpries. The stats were impressive: wedding costs—$10 million; diamond size—20.5 carats; bride's and bridesmaids' dresses—upward of $150 thousand; length of the marriage before filing for divorce—72 days.
It didn't come as a total shock. Rumblings of trouble began from the lawyers' offices well before the wedding. Pre-nup issues ranged from how the profits from the wedding would be divided, to whether the bride could keep the ring in the event of divorce, etc.
In the aftermath of this brief marriage, Kim admitted it wasn't the fairy-tale wedding she tried desperately to create. The most extravagant celebration can't compensate for the absence of committed hearts. Clearly, this was not a match made in heaven.
A Song of Love
However, in Psalm 45, we read a love song depicting an eager groom and his devoted bride in anticipation of their wedding day and marriage. This was not just any bride and groom. Although we don't know for certain, many believe this psalm was written about King Solomon and Pharaoh's daughter. But most importantly, this is a Messianic psalm that points to the reality of Jesus and the impending wedding and marriage of Christ and His church.
As we read, we learn this wedding won't be a shabby affair. The psalmist speaks of great anticipation and joyful preparation, a magnificent, anointed groom who is a righteous king, a beautiful bride, an everlasting dwelling place, and eternal adoration.
A Language of Love
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to describe someone you love? The words just roll off your tongue. You could go on and on. Often people in love have an intimate language of their own and call each other by pet names that signal private moments and romantic meaning. That is also true in this song of love:
My heart is overflowing with a good theme; I recite my composition concerning the King; my tongue is the pen of a ready writer (Psalm 45:1).
God's language of love is filled with grace. He expresses His joy for us with gracious words of devotion and speaks of the fidelity and exclusivity of our relationship. In Isaiah 45:6 we read, "There is none besides Me. I am the Lord, and there is no other." There is room for no other love or God in this relationship. He jealously loves us and we are to love only our fair Lord.
A Mighty Groom
When we describe someone as being "fair," a lot of us may think of the evil queen in Snow White standing before her mirror asking, "Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?" Fair is an old-fashioned word that refers both to the outward beauty and inner character of a person.
You are fairer than the sons of men; grace is poured upon Your lips; therefore God has blessed You forever. Gird Your sword upon Your thigh, O Mighty One, with Your glory and Your majesty. And in Your majesty ride prosperously because of truth, humility, and righteousness...Your arrows are sharp in the heart of the King's enemies; the peoples fall under You (Psalm 45:2-5).
Our heavenly Husband is a mighty Man of valor who consistently does good. He has a sword upon His thigh. With glory and majesty, He rides prosperously, armed with sharp arrows. He is a Man of war. Both the King's subjects and enemies fall at His feet. Sounds a lot like a knight in shining armor to me. But that doesn't mean we are to be wimps. As the bride of Christ, I believe we're meant to be more like Joan of Arc than Snow White. Revelation 19:14 says, "And the armies in heaven, clothed in fine linen, white and clean, followed Him on white horses." We are to be strong and ready to ride beside our Lord, who rules with a scepter of righteousness (see Psalm 45:6).
There's No Place Like Throne
The battle here on earth has been fought and won, and we will abide with Him forever. No less than an ivory palace awaits.
Your throne, O God, is forever and ever (Psalm 45:6).
For so many people, home is an elusive location rather than a steady place of rest, security, and peace. Imagine the profound comfort and splendor of abiding with the Lord as His bride. In Hebrews 1:8-9, the writer says, "Your throne, O God, is forever and ever; a scepter of righteous is the scepter of Your kingdom. You have loved righteousness and hated lawlessness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You with the oil of gladness more than Your companions." Luke's gospel adds to our understanding of our secure, future home: "Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom" (Luke 12:32).
The Groom and His Bride
On the day of their union, the Groom is ready. He has been anointed with the oils of joy and gladness. He is righteous, strong, and has fought for His bride.
You love righteousness and hate wickedness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You with the oil of gladness more than Your companions. All Your garments are scented with myrrh and aloes and cassia, out of the ivory palaces, by which they have made You glad (Psalm 45:7-8).
The bride, too, is at her lovely best. Revelation 19:7-8 describes her well: "'Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.' And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints." Her wedding dress is made of "the righteous acts of the saints"! Interesting to consider that our good acts will add to the beauty and loveliness of our wedding dress. Pearls, lace, diamonds, and a dress guaranteed not to be found on the rack of any mundane bridal shop.
A New Life
In wedding ceremonies today, the couple is counseled to leave their parents' home and form a new alliance by cleaving to each other. Divided loyalties are certain to divide the newly married couple.
Listen, O daughter, consider and incline your ear; forget your own people also, and your father's house; so the King will greatly desire your beauty; because He is your Lord, worship Him (Psalm 45:10-11).
No person, no activity, absolutely nothing should be worthy competition for the Son of God in your life. Not your mother or father, not your sister or your best friend. Matthew 10:37 says, "He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me." God can tell if your ultimate devotion is to Him, just as your earthly spouse can tell if your loyalty is exclusively for him. Our Lord rightly deserves all that we are and all that we have.
And They Lived...
After the wedding, in this psalm depicting our future life with our heavenly Husband, we see wealthy people coming to visit and paying their respects with gifts. The bride, now the "royal daughter," is in her new palatial home, preparing to be brought to the King.
And the daughter of Tyre will come with a gift; the rich among the people will seek your favor. The royal daughter is all glorious within the palace; her clothing is woven with gold. She shall be brought to the King in robes of many colors. The virgins, her companions who follow her, shall be brought to You. With gladness and rejoicing they shall be brought; they shall enter the King's palace" (Psalm 45:12-15).
A bridal procession of pure joy and celebration! Can you imagine the choir of jubilant angels, the anticipation of the bride, and the culmination of God's plan coming together at this unparalleled moment? The King and His bride...together at last! Living in the praise and respect due to the King of kings and Lord of lords—happily ever after.
Lenya Heitzig is an award-winning author, popular Bible teacher, and a sought after speaker at women’s conferences and retreats worldwide. She is the author of Holy Moments: Recognizing God’s Fingerprints on Your Life and also contributed to the best-selling New Women’s Devotional Bible. Lenya has co-authored seven Fresh Life Bible studies and is the sole author of two studies in the Fresh Life series: Live Reflectively and Live Tastefully. She and her husband, Skip, founded Calvary of Albuquerque where Lenya has served as Director of she Ministries since 1984, overseeing weekly Bible studies and yearly retreats.