SERIES: Darkroom
MESSAGE: The Darkness of a Broken Family
SPEAKER: Skip Heitzig
SCRIPTURE: 1 Samuel 24

MESSAGE SUMMARY
One of the darkest rooms anyone can enter is dealing with a broken family. To be part of a family that is fragmented and malfunctioning feels bleak and miserable. The by-products of being in such a family are feeling unwanted, unloved, and isolated. But did you know that many people in Scripture came from such families, including David? The good news is that God is in the business of fixing broken things, including broken families. David’s darkroom of family difficulty is what we consider here.

STUDY GUIDE
Connect Group Guide: January 30, 2022
Speaker: Skip Heitzig
Teaching: “The Darkness of a Broken Family”
Text: 1 Samuel 24

Main Point
One of the darkest rooms anyone can enter is dealing with a broken family. To be part of a family that is fragmented and malfunctioning feels bleak and miserable. The by-products of being in such a family are feeling unwanted, unloved, and isolated. But did you know that many people in Scripture came from such families, including David? The good news is that God is in the business of fixing broken things, including broken families. David’s darkroom of family difficulty is what we consider here.

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.” —Matthew 18:15

Talk about It

  1. Is there someone in your life that, though you find respect difficult, you can honor because of the position and role God has given them in your life? How would that in turn honor the Lord?
  2. David chose to deal with Saul in the light of day, rather than in the darkness of the cave. Discuss why communication, of any sort (confrontation, reassurance, etc.), is important to have in the light—face to face. If 70-90% of communication is nonverbal, how does that influence your relationships?
  3. Who came to mind during the message that you’ve been putting off confrontation with? This isn’t intended to inspire gossip, but rather to inspire a step toward relational health. (Consider the Latin root of “confront” means “to turn your face toward.”)
“Conflict delayed is conflict multiplied—confrontation helps stop conflict.” —Pastor Skip

Make It Practical
Pray
Father, help us to expect the imperfection and blemishes of people, confronting quickly, and forgiving fully. You made people and gave them roles in our lives. We want to honor You by respecting and honoring them. Empower us to initiate confrontation, peace, and reconciliation. For you, Jesus.

Cross references: 1 Samuel 19:17; 20:30; 2 Chronicles 16:9; Proverbs 27:6; Psalm 27:10 Matthew 6:15; 18:15;1 Corinthians 13:7-8

OUTLINE


  1. Blemished Is Better Than Broken (vv. 1-2)

  2. Respect Is Better Than Revenge (vv. 3-7)

  3. Light Is Better Than Darkness (v. 8)

  4. Truth Is Better Than Triumph (vv. 9-19)

Keywords: affliction, authority, blemished, broken, brokenness, calloused, communication, conflict, confront, confrontation, darkness, David, dysfunction, enemy, family, flaw, forgiveness, forsaken, honor, imperfect, jealous, light, reconciliation, resolving, respect, revenge, triumph, trust, truth


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