Connect Recap Notes: February 24, 2019
Speaker: Nate Heitzig
Teaching: "Love like Jesus"
Text: 1 Corinthians 13

Path

Behind every statistic, there is a story; behind every hand, a heart; behind every number, a name. As Christians, our goal should be nothing less than every heart, every hand, and every home won for Jesus. But there's something that must resonate within each heart and home—love. In this teaching, Pastor Nate Heitzig expounds upon 1 Corinthians 13, encouraging us to love like Jesus.

I. You Never Look More like Jesus Than…
II. When You're Kind, not Selfish
III. You Never Look Less like Jesus Than…
IV. When You Judge in Your Heart

Points

You Never Look More like Jesus Than…

• The Bible teaches that the world will know that we are followers of Christ by our love for one another (see John 13:34-35).
• The "least of these" from Matthew 25:40 are those hearts that are broken, unloved, and shunned. There are many who need our love—the forgotten, the marginalized, and the oppressed.
• The benchmark for love is Jesus; He loved those the world hated, touched those the world shunned, and reached out to those the world avoided.
• Love is shining the light of God's love upon the world. As Jesus said, Christians need to "let [our] light so shine before men" (Matthew 5:16). Love is active, not abstract.
• In 1 Corinthians 13:4 (niv), the apostle Paul began his discourse on love with the word patient, which means long-tempered. Patient love "turns the other cheek" (Matthew 5:38-39).

When You're Kind, Not Selfish

• If patience will wait for others, kindness will give anything to others. Kindness is active goodwill. If kind love is learned but not lived, it is a lie.
• This is emphasized by Paul in Romans 2:4: "Do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness [goodness] of God leads you to repentance?" (nasb) Sadly, many in the church forget kind love; we immerse ourselves in productivity, forgetting to love people.
• Tim Keller put it this way: "When the world sees the church doing evangelism, making converts, it only sees us increasing our numbers and increasing our power. When it sees us sacrificially serving the needs of our neighbors, whether they believe or not, then it may see that we are motivated by love not the desire for power. We must both preach the gospel and serve those who can do nothing for us in return."
• You don't need to sacrifice your convictions for compassion—follow the Bible and love people from all walks of life.
• As Pastor Skip has said, "If God's love has flowed into our lives, it ought to flow out of our lives."

You Never Look Less Like Jesus Than…

• We've discussed the positive aspects of love. What should we avoid? See verses 4-5.
• Rudeness: This is when we dishonor others. We might not understand certain things about people, but this does not give us license to be rude.
• Provoked: Love should guard against being irritated, upset, or angered by things said, or done, against it.

When You Judge in your Heart

• What to avoid when loving people:
• Thinking no evil: As Christians, we need to see people and love them, leaving judgement to God. As Jesus implied in Matthew 7:3, our judgment should be tempered: "Why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye…"
• What we should do according to 1 Corinthians 13:7:
• Believe all things: Love is not suspicious or cynical. We should be for people, not against people. On our worst day, God still calls us "beloved".
• Endure all things: Love refuses to surrender—to stop loving or believing in people.
• Thoughts for those spurned by a church:
• Encountering an unloving believer doesn't excuse unbelieving behavior; each person must give account for themselves to Christ.
• Jesus wants you to bring all the baggage in your heart to Him.
• To love like Jesus means both sacrifice and commitment. We should:
• Remember the forgotten, pursue the marginalized, fight for the oppressed, and love the outcast.
• We should:
• Love those the world has forgotten, love those the church has marginalized, love those the government has oppressed, and love those that society has cast out.

Practice

Connect Up: Because God is love, does it mean all love is of God? C.S Lewis would say no.1 A love of pizza is not the same as love for a person. Think about the perfect love God exhibits; the Bible calls God's perfect love agape. "God is love" (1 John 4:8). The word used for love is agape, a benevolent, godly love; it is unconditional love. Discuss the other loves often referred to in the Bible, and talk about the similarities and differences:

• Storge love—an empathetic bond, or fondness
• Philia love—an affectionate love, as with friends or siblings
• Eros love—sensual or erotic love

Connect In: Share a story of love seen within the church. When have you experienced deep agape love from Christians? How did it make you feel? Now talk about a time when love was not shown. How did an unloving attitude make you feel? How did the definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13 come into play? As a reminder, love is defined as:

• Patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, self-seeking or angered, keeps no record of wrongs, and does not delight in evil, rejoices in truth, protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres, and never fails.

Connect Out: Think of a person you've been unloving toward. Confess your unloving attitude to your group. Take time to pray for yourself and that person, then do as Pastor Nate suggested, and act upon love: Go to the person, asking for forgiveness, letting them know that you did not represent the love of Christ.

1 The Four Loves, February 8, 2019, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Loves, accessed 02/25/2019.

"Love like Jesus"
1 Corinthians 13

1. Introduction
1. Jesus cares deeply for the one
1. He would have died on the cross if it were just for one person
2. As believers, our calling is to care for the one
1. This includes everyone—the outcasts, those who disagree with us politically, and those who disagree with us spiritually
2. Our mandate is to reach out to everyone
3. We want to see every hand, every heart, and every home won for Jesus
2. We are called to love "the least of these" (Matthew 25:40):
1. Those the world has forgotten
2. Those the church has marginalized
3. Those the government has oppressed
4. Those whom society has cast out
3. The world will know we are believers by our love for other people (see John 13:34-35)
1. Your identity in Christ isn't found in your love for God but is reflected in your love for other people
2. The least of these aren't relegated to third-world countries—they're right here in our backyard, in our city, in the neighborhoods we try to avoid
3. The least of these is every heart that is broken, every hand that is shunned, every home that is avoided
4. We need to remember the forgotten, pursue the marginalized, fight for the oppressed, and love the outcast
4. The benchmark for our love is the love Jesus has for us
1. He loved those the world hated, touched those the world shunned, and reached for those the world avoided
2. We don't get to determine how far is far enough
3. Matthew 5:16
5. Your goal as a Christian isn't to be bright, but to try to be Jesus
1. How can I look a little bit more like Jesus today?
2. How do I love people more like Jesus?
3. Never stop loving, never stop forgiving
6. How do we genuinely love people we don't genuinely love?
1. There are people who are genuinely difficult to love, yet we're called to genuinely love them anyway
2. The world will experience Jesus through our love for people (see John 13:35)
3. If there's one thing that should characterize the church, it's love
7. 1 Corinthians 13 is the most comprehensive description of love in Scripture, and it doesn't focus on what love is, but on what love does
1. Love is not abstract—love is active
2. Love is fully love only when it acts
3. Love doesn't make you feel something—it makes you do something
4. 1 John 3:18
8. This passage is also a description of Jesus' love toward us
1. This is a portrait of Jesus
2. His love is to be our love (see Romans 8:29)
9. His love can be your love if you let it
10. To live like Jesus, you need to look like Jesus
2. You Never Look More like Jesus Than…
1. When you're patient
1. "Love is patient" (v. 4, NIV); patience literally means long-tempered
2. Love's patience is the ability to be inconvenienced or taken advantage of repeatedly
1. This is also seen in forgiving those who continue to hurt you (see Acts 7:60)
2. Pray blessings upon those who hurt you, not vengeance
3. This is the love that turns the other cheek (see Matthew 5:39)
1. Its primary concern isn't for itself, but for others
2. Patient love allows itself to be wronged
4. To love like Jesus is to love those the world hates, touch those the world shuns, reach out to those the world avoids
1. Start with patience—start with the self-sacrificial, tender love He has for us
2. We must make the choice to be patient
2. When you're kind
1. If patience will put up with anything from others, kindness will give anything to others
2. Patience and kindness are two sides of the same coin
1. Patience says, "You can do anything to me"
2. Kindness says, "And I will do anything for you"
3. Kind love is active goodwill
1. It doesn't just feel generous—it is generous
2. It doesn't just desire change, but it also works toward that change
4. When you love someone despite what they do to you, it will change your heart
1. It's hard to be bitter toward someone you're praying for daily
2. It's hard to hate someone you've purposed in your heart to bless
5. Kind love puts up a barrier around your heart and protects you from growing bitter, from allowing that bitterness to fester and poison all of your relationships
1. When you love people the way Jesus loves people, you stay in an innocent, childlike purity, in awe of who God is and in awe that He would love you in the first place (see Romans 2:4)
2. If love is learned but not lived, it is a lie; don't say you love someone if you're not going to live it
6. Oftentimes, the first thing we forget is the simplest thing—nothing else matters if Jesus doesn't love people
1. The longer we immerse ourselves in religion, the more we tend to forget what makes it work in the first place
2. We can become so caught up in events, programs, ministry, etc., that we forget what ministry is actually about
1. "When the world sees the church doing evangelism, making converts, it only sees us increasing our numbers and increasing our power. When it sees us sacrificially serving the needs of our neighbors, whether they believe or not, then it may see that we are motivated by love, not the desire for power. We must both preach the gospel and serve those who can do nothing for us in return" —Tim Keller
2. Our city needs to see our love before they'll listen to our message
7. You don't have to sacrifice your convictions for compassion
1. If you don't love people from all walks of life, then you're not following the Bible
2. "If God's love has flowed into our lives, it ought to flow out of our lives" —Skip Heitzig
3. If God's love is not flowing out of our lives, it's questionable whether it has flowed into our lives in the first place
3. You Never Look Less like Jesus Than…
1. When you're rude
1. Be kind to people; true love has manners
2. We might not understand why people do what they do, but they're still people, created in the image of God, and they deserve respect no matter what choices they've made
2. When you're easily provoked to anger
1. When did it become more important for us to be a Democrat or a Republican than to be a Christian?
2. If there are things you know will cause you to be angry, guard against those things
3. When you judge in your heart
1. As humans, it's easy to be cynical and judgmental of others
2. So many of us have misunderstood this; it's not okay, even if you don't say it out loud (see Matthew 7:3-5)
3. How often are we guilty of thinking of and looking at others with judgment and contempt?
1. We have to choose to see people through the eyes of Jesus
2. Leave the judgment to God—everyone has to give account of himself to God
4. When you're suspicious
1. We need to spend less time looking at where someone is and more time learning about their story
2. Instead of coming to them in judgment, build a relationship with them first—cover them in the love of Christ
1. Instead of looking for ways to judge people, look for ways to love people
2. "Burning down others' opinions doesn't make us right. It makes us arsonists" —Bob Goff
4. Conclusion
1. On your very worst day, God still calls you "beloved"
2. "Love never fails" (v. 8)
1. Love refuses to give up, to stop hoping
2. Love will simply not stop loving
3. It shouldn't be surprising when Christians love people
1. Jesus loves you desperately, no strings attached
2. In the church, every heart should feel welcome, every hand safe, every home loved
3. We will remember the forgotten, pursue the marginalized, fight for the oppressed, love the outcast
4. To love like Jesus means both sacrifice and commitment
4. Encountering an unloving believer doesn't excuse an unbelieving behavior
1. Jesus wants you to bring all your baggage and come to Him
2. He wants to take all your baggage, all of your pain, and carry it for you

Figures referenced: Bob Goff, Skip Heitzig, Tim Keller

Cross references: Matthew 5:16, 39; 7:3-5; 25:40; John 13:34-35; Acts 7:60; Romans 2:4; 8:29; 1 John 3:18